Monthly Archives: August 2011

The Bell Curve, John Piper, John MacArthur, and Others

This is a post I’ve been wanting to write for a while, but until tonight, I was never able to put it into words. In my upcoming book, I talk about the unrealistic expectations that are placed upon a pastor and the stress it causes him. Many of the unrealistic expectations come from within the pastor. He thinks he is… Read more »

The Plumber’s Sin vs The Pastor’s Sin

Fallen pastors go through a series of stages after their fall from ministry. It’s a topic that consumes a lot of space in the manuscript for the book I’m working on. Fallen pastors spend a lot of time being angry and justifying their actions – at least many of them do. I know I did. Anyone caught in sin, as… Read more »

The Plumber's Sin vs The Pastor's Sin

Fallen pastors go through a series of stages after their fall from ministry. It’s a topic that consumes a lot of space in the manuscript for the book I’m working on. Fallen pastors spend a lot of time being angry and justifying their actions – at least many of them do. I know I did. Anyone caught in sin, as… Read more »

I Love My Wife, And I Love The Church

The last two years have been a trying time. If you had shown up at my door two years ago and said, “Ray, after your fall, you are going to fall hard. People are going to reject you. Hate you. You will feel fall into depression like you’ve never known. You will think even God hates you.” I would have… Read more »

Another Fallen Pastor, More Judging.

I just read a story about Zachery Tims, pastor of a megachurch in Orlando, Florida. Never heard of him before tonight. Apparently, he was found dead in New York from a drug overdose. The article I link tells of his roller coaster past. He had one of the largest churches in central Florida – over 7,000 members. As a young… Read more »

Guest Blog: Joy Wilson

[It’s an honor to have my friend and fellow Civitas Press author, Joy Wilson guest blog today. Check out her new book Uncensored Prayer: The Spiritual Practice of Wrestling With God (available in paperback and Kindle). I’ve gotten to know her online and she is a remarkable woman. The floor is yours, Joy . . .] The Divorce by Joy… Read more »

Milestone Celebration!

My book length is supposed to be at least 60,000 words. I just got to word 60,000. Woo hoo! For those keeping score at home, the 60,000th word was “those.” Anyway, I have more writing to do, an initial first edit of my own for grammar’s sake, then a first read by Allison, then another personal edit. I feel blessed… Read more »

XXXChurch.com, Sexual Addiction, and Church Faces

In writing my book, I have interviewed many experts. I want to share their words with you, faithful readers, each time I interview them. However, I have to wait until publication. I do, however, want to let you know about an amazing ministry – XXXChurch.com. They are on the forefront of the battle against pornography and how it has infiltrated… Read more »

Cats and Church

We have a cat problem. We have KitKat, our orange two year old kitty who is scared of his own shadow. He stays in the garage. He’s scared of all of us, but will let you pet him when you give him food. Recently, we have added two strays. Pearl, who is jet black and is lovable and kind. He’s… Read more »

Pride – The Good Kind

Last week, I was in Kansas for my grandparent’s (my dad’s side) 70th wedding anniversary celebration. We had a good time. I got to see relatives I haven’t seen in a long time and they got to meet Allison for the first time. If you’ve read this blog for any length of time, you probably know my Dad (nicknamed “Sandy”)… Read more »