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Temptation, Lightning, and Seductive Sin

Posted by Ray Carroll | Posted in adultery, fallenness, forgiveness, sin, temptation | Posted on 20-08-2012

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Temptation, Lightning, and Seductive Sin

For those who don’t know, I’m a cer­ti­fied ath­letic trainer in my spare time. Actu­ally, that was what I did before I was called to min­istry. Then I became a bi-​vocational minister.

What does a cer­ti­fied ath­letic trainer do, you ask? Well, I’m not a per­sonal trainer. Cer­ti­fied ath­letic train­ers are the peo­ple you see on tele­vi­sion dur­ing sport­ing events who take care of injuries to ath­letes. There’s more we do. We pre­vent injuries by tap­ing, mon­i­tor the con­di­tions (weather), make sure ath­letes are hydrated, and a lot of other fun stuff.

Way back in the day, I worked out­side of a large city for a big sports med­i­cine clinic. One of the things I had to do was cover a lot of soc­cer tour­na­ments on the weekend.

Many of those events take place dur­ing stormy months and it’s my job to make sure the tour­na­ment direc­tor knows when it’s time to go in. If there’s light­ning in sight, they all have to go in.

Now, I’m talk­ing about my for­mer job over ten years ago in a met­ro­pol­i­tan area. I’ve been the trainer at a lot of schools, but one inter­ac­tion got my blood running.

There was light­ning all around. It was within ten miles. I approached the tour­na­ment direc­tor and told him, “We have got to stop play right now. There’s light­ning in the area.” His response? “We’re okay. The light­ning isn’t that close.”

What trig­gers in a person’s mind like that? I already know. A coach wants to get as much field time in as pos­si­ble. He thinks that he has to have as much out­side time as he can get because he has a tour­na­ment to run. He thinks it makes his team bet­ter.

Not from my med­ical per­spec­tive. All I see are light­ning bolts strik­ing the kids and killing them. There are def­i­nitely two dif­fer­ently points of view going on.

Now, let’s turn it to a the­o­log­i­cal point of view.

At some point, we all dab­ble in sin. We look at it, think we can con­trol it and we wade in it. Like the coaches who are star­ing at the light­ning five miles away, we think we are fine. “It’s not going to hit here. We’re still okay for a few more min­utes. I don’t care if I see it. I mean, what are the odds that we get struck by light­ning?”

I get it, seri­ously. If I was run­ning a sports pro­gram, I would prob­a­bly feel the same way. Who cares about what the trainer says? That light­ning is far off. It won’t be here for another ten min­utes and we can get another ten plays in. We have to get this game in!

The only prob­lem is that light­ning can strike well before a storm. And after. It’s dan­ger­ous. But some­times, we think that the dan­ger­ous light­ning isn’t going to get near us. We think we are immune. Know why? Because we’ve never been struck by it before before. The chances are slim. It won’t hap­pen to us. So, stick it, light­ning. We won’t get hit. We’re invin­ci­ble because we have sta­tis­tics by our side.

Right.

When I was writ­ing my book, “Fallen Pas­tor: Find­ing Restora­tion in a Bro­ken World,” one pas­tor quoted a proverb to me that I had never noticed before.

Can a man carry fire next to his chest, and his clothes not be burned? (Proverbs 6:27 ESV)

You know, I thought about that for a while. Dan­git, Solomon was right. No one can carry sin along with them for any length of time and expect that they will get away with it. I didn’t. Some men and women are crafty enough to get away with it for years. But it will catch up to them.

It’s like light­ning. Go ahead and go out­side and prac­tice when the trainer told you not to. It’s all around you while you stand out there with the huge metal poles that act like light­ning attrac­tors. But what the trainer is telling you is this, “It’s not safe. If you go out there, you have a risk of get­ting peo­ple killed. I can’t say for sure that kids will get killed, but if you got out there and prac­tice, it could happen.”

The day I argued with that soc­cer coach, he finally con­ceded to go inside. Sec­onds later, light­ning hit one of the poles on the field.

Did I get credit? Nope. What I heard was this — “We still could have gone another 5 min­utes before the light­ning came.”

Really? Okay. Great.

I’ve got a bet­ter one for you. There are a lot of pas­tors and oth­ers who read this blog and are med­dling in sin. They think they have a han­dle on it. How­ever, there is a huge, “Thun­der­storm Warn­ing” on their lives. I’ve been there. You can­not keep med­dling with that sin. You can­not con­trol that sin. When it comes to full fruition, you are a goner. You will lose it all.

Know what’s really ironic? My mother, who died a cou­ple of years ago, wrote eight Chris­t­ian non-​fiction books. One of them was called “Temp­ta­ton: How Chris­tians Can Deal With It.” She was wise in her writ­ing. Maybe if only I had read it.

Stop med­dling with sin now. Seek help. Con­fess. Find some­one you can really trust to con­fide in. Oth­er­wise, your sin will find you out in pub­lic. Email me and I’ll help you. But do not con­tinue in your sin. It’s a thun­der­storm wait­ing to hap­pen. Come clean before you get caught.

No pas­tor is above reproach. Seek out the for­give­ness of God. Repent now. Get help. Reverse the order of your life. Find peo­ple who will walk with you through this dif­fi­cult time. I’m here. I’m net­worked with peo­ple who can help you. But stop pre­tend­ing to be some­one you’re not.

There are thou­sands like us. Thou­sands like me who fell in min­istry. We want to help before and after you fall. We are here to min­is­ter to you. Let us do that for you.

Note: Right now, I’m work­ing with other men who are cur­rently net­work­ing together to help fallen pas­tors across the coun­try. If you’re inter­ested in join­ing us, drop me a line.

For those who don’t know, I’m a certified athletic trainer in my spare time. Actually, that was what I did before I was called to ministry. Then I became a bi-vocational minister.

What does a certified athletic trainer do, you ask? Well, I’m not a personal trainer. Certified athletic trainers are the people you see on television during sporting events who take care of injuries to athletes. There’s more we do. We prevent injuries by taping, monitor the conditions (weather), make sure athletes are hydrated, and a lot of other fun stuff.

Way back in the day, I worked outside of a large city for a big sports medicine clinic. One of the things I had to do was cover a lot of soccer tournaments on the weekend.

Many of those events take place during stormy months and it’s my job to make sure the tournament director knows when it’s time to go in. If there’s lightning in sight, they all have to go in.

Now, I’m talking about my former job over ten years ago in a metropolitan area. I’ve been the trainer at a lot of schools, but one interaction got my blood running.

There was lightning all around. It was within ten miles. I approached the tournament director and told him, “We have got to stop play right now. There’s lightning in the area.” His response? “We’re okay. The lightning isn’t that close.”

What triggers in a person’s mind like that? I already know. A coach wants to get as much field time in as possible. He thinks that he has to have as much outside time as he can get because he has a tournament to run. He thinks it makes his team better.

Not from my medical perspective. All I see are lightning bolts striking the kids and killing them. There are definitely two differently points of view going on.

Now, let’s turn it to a theological point of view.

At some point, we all dabble in sin. We look at it, think we can control it and we wade in it. Like the coaches who are staring at the lightning five miles away, we think we are fine. “It’s not going to hit here. We’re still okay for a few more minutes. I don’t care if I see it. I mean, what are the odds that we get struck by lightning?”

I get it, seriously. If I was running a sports program, I would probably feel the same way. Who cares about what the trainer says? That lightning is far off. It won’t be here for another ten minutes and we can get another ten plays in. We have to get this game in!

The only problem is that lightning can strike well before a storm. And after. It’s dangerous. But sometimes, we think that the dangerous lightning isn’t going to get near us. We think we are immune. Know why? Because we’ve never been struck by it before before. The chances are slim. It won’t happen to us. So, stick it, lightning. We won’t get hit. We’re invincible because we have statistics by our side.

Right.

When I was writing my book, “Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration in a Broken World,” one pastor quoted a proverb to me that I had never noticed before.

Can a man carry fire next to his chest, and his clothes not be burned? (Proverbs 6:27 ESV)

You know, I thought about that for a while. Dangit, Solomon was right. No one can carry sin along with them for any length of time and expect that they will get away with it. I didn’t. Some men and women are crafty enough to get away with it for years. But it will catch up to them.

It’s like lightning. Go ahead and go outside and practice when the trainer told you not to. It’s all around you while you stand out there with the huge metal poles that act like lightning attractors. But what the trainer is telling you is this, “It’s not safe. If you go out there, you have a risk of getting people killed. I can’t say for sure that kids will get killed, but if you got out there and practice, it could happen.”

The day I argued with that soccer coach, he finally conceded to go inside. Seconds later, lightning hit one of the poles on the field.

Did I get credit? Nope. What I heard was this – “We still could have gone another 5 minutes before the lightning came.”

Really? Okay. Great.

I’ve got a better one for you. There are a lot of pastors and others who read this blog and are meddling in sin. They think they have a handle on it. However, there is a huge, “Thunderstorm Warning” on their lives. I’ve been there. You cannot keep meddling with that sin. You cannot control that sin. When it comes to full fruition, you are a goner. You will lose it all.

Know what’s really ironic? My mother, who died a couple of years ago, wrote eight Christian non-fiction books. One of them was called “Temptaton: How Christians Can Deal With It.” She was wise in her writing. Maybe if only I had read it.

Stop meddling with sin now. Seek help. Confess. Find someone you can really trust to confide in. Otherwise, your sin will find you out in public. Email me and I’ll help you. But do not continue in your sin. It’s a thunderstorm waiting to happen. Come clean before you get caught.

No pastor is above reproach. Seek out the forgiveness of God. Repent now. Get help. Reverse the order of your life. Find people who will walk with you through this difficult time. I’m here. I’m networked with people who can help you. But stop pretending to be someone you’re not.

There are thousands like us. Thousands like me who fell in ministry. We want to help before and after you fall. We are here to minister to you. Let us do that for you.

Note: Right now, I’m working with other men who are currently networking together to help fallen pastors across the country. If you’re interested in joining us, drop me a line.

Comments (6)

We definitely reap what we sow.

Sin is the gift that keeps on giving. Affecting not just ourselves but many, many others…like a bowling ball careening off pins into other pins, that in turn hit other pins.

We ought not sin. But we do.

Thanks be to God we have an Advocate.

Now…”go your way and sin no more.”

Great post. Thank you.

Right on, Steve. Thanks for the good words.

One way I deal with sin is to find out why I want to believe the lie that is behind it.

And as I learn to deal with that desire in a godly way, the power of the temptation slackens.

May God bless your ministry to fallen pastors and hopefully those who will not fall because of it.

Sir – I’ve been reading your website off and on for the last couple of days. Perhaps your response would be found in your book (which I intend to order soon).

In general, what would be your advice to a church deacon or elder body which hears from their minister that he had an affair over ten years ago which occurred prior to the ministers divorce?

I understand and the agree with the principle of restoring the minister and forgiving him and supporting him in his restroration effort, but does that necessarily mean the minister should retain his pastoral duties at his church?

Thank you for your question. It’s not something I deal with in the book but I will answer the question, and it may seem rather vague.

First, each denomination has rules about such things. First, check into that. At the same time, a lot of churches are autonomous and may make decisions on their own regarding such matters.

Know that any decision will have repercussions in the body and local fellowships. Of course, if the congregation and leadership is doing what they believe is Scriptural, then they should stand by that. That’s one part to consider.

There are several views on this issue. I’ll just share mine. I do believe a pastor should be restored definitely to the point where he is in a right relationship with God.

Should he ever be allowed back in the pulpit? I think it’s case by case. First, has he demonstrated over a long period of time an attitude of brokenness and holiness? Second, is he pursuing Christ first and not necessarily a return to the ministry? Third, does he have a support group that will stand with him, loving him, holding him accountable and also be willing to answer people who ask, “why was he allowed to minister again?”

Restoration is a long process. It takes months and months. I definitely discuss that in the book. Several of the men I profile in the book returned to ministry and I talk about that too.

Scriptually, when I look at the qualifications of an elder or overseer, I believe those are traits that should be seen as a pattern for that person in their life. If those qualifications were hard and fast, we would all be disqualified.

I probably didn’t help. And again, there are a lot of people with different views. Search out the will of God. Know for sure where He is leading and above all, seek out His glory.

I will keep you in my heart and prayers.

Thanks for your reply. It’s a difficult situation to address on a multitude of levels – spiritual, practical, emotional – and many others I’m sure.

I will continue to pray, read his word and seek wisdom for myself, the pastor and elders(deacon) of the body.

God bless.

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