Monthly Archives: March 2013

Allison, My Wife, My Inspiration

I was overwhelmed Wednesday by the reception I received from my blog post called, “Gay Marriage, the Church, and the Christ Response.” All the feedback I got was amazing and it was from both sides of the aisle. The post wasn’t really about gay marriage, but about how we should love as Christ loved. I say that to say this… Read more »

Gay Marriage, the Church, and the Jesus Response

I was so thankful yesterday to get a Facebook inbox message from a friend who was concerned about the current argument in America over gay marriage. Like many Christians, she was concerned about the moral failure of the country. She had been watching Facebook and so have I. I too, have seen many comments like, “Why don’t people see what… Read more »

“I’m Sorry.” “It’s Okay, It’s Not Your Fault.” ARRRGH!

There’s a little interaction between people that really needs to go away. I don’t even know why it exists in the culture. Let me give you a few examples. You’re probably aware of it. You might even be guilty of it: Example 1 Person #1: My car broke down. Person #2: I’m sorry. Person #1: It’s okay. It’s not your… Read more »

Johnny Cash, “Unchained”

I’ve learned that no matter where you are in life, there’s a Johnny Cash song to go along with it. Recently, I’ve caused trouble to people very close to me. Very close. And this song does justice to how I feel. So, in deference and all respect to Cindy Holman’s music posting style, I’m posting “Unchained” by Johnny Cash so… Read more »

Is Anyone Qualified To Pastor? The Forest of 1 Timothy 3:1-7

I’ve written about whether fallen pastors should be allowed to return to the pulpit. Some fallen pastors reconcile with their wives, some are unable to. I’ve seen men go through a process of repentance and return to a lifestyle of holiness and return to ministry. Each time I blog about it, I mention the verses in 1 Timothy 3:1-7, Paul’s… Read more »

Are Christians Allowed To Enjoy Life Following A Major Sin?

I’ve got a fallen pastor friend that I’ve grown close to. I don’t think he reads my blog, but I hope he does. He has gone through some of the same issues I went through three and a half years ago when I fell from ministry when I committed adultery. He fell a while back from his place of ministry…. Read more »

My Wife’s New Web Site:

My wife, Allison, has a new website for her blog – She really has a heart for women who are in relationships/have been in relationships with pastors or those otherwise effected. She’s gotten back into blogging and has received a lot of good feedback and appreciates it. Thank you for your support. She’s a great listener and encourager. I… Read more »

The Pathetic Power of Unforgiveness: When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough, Pt. 3

When we mess up and need forgiveness, one of the most frustrating things can be when people withhold that forgiveness. I’ve tried to outline some reasons people do that, but today I want to get into one of the really nasty things that can happen after someone grants a sort of half-hearted forgiveness. You know what I’m talking about. You’ve… Read more »

My Wife, “Fallen Pastor’s Wife” & Her Ministry

Allison is my sweet wife of three years. We have both tread the path of holiness since our fall, trying to do what is right. Are we always perfect? Nope. But we are here to serve those who fall. A while back she started a blog. It’s been inactive a while, but today, she wrote again, to tell our story…. Read more »

5 Reasons People Won’t Forgive – When I’m Sorry Isn’t Enough

I don’t know about you, but I mess up. A lot. And in my life, I’ve found myself asking for forgiveness more than once. But when I fell from ministry, it took me a while to get to a place where my heart was right enough to ask forgiveness in the right manner. I blogged about that a little last… Read more »