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Is Anyone Qualified To Pastor? The Forest of 1 Timothy 3:1-7

Posted by fallenpastor | Posted in Christianity, church, churches, expectations, fallenness, holiness, judgment, leadership, ministry, pastoring, pastors, restoration, theology | Posted on 22-03-2013


I’ve written about whether fallen pastors should be allowed to return to the pulpit. Some fallen pastors reconcile with pulpit2their wives, some are unable to. I’ve seen men go through a process of repentance and return to a lifestyle of holiness and return to ministry.

Each time I blog about it, I mention the verses in 1 Timothy 3:1-7, Paul’s qualification for an overseer in the church. Among the qualifications, an overseer must be “above reproach, husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent, not quarrelsome, manage his household well, keep his children submissive, not be a recent convert, and be thought of well by outsiders.”

Tough list. But I think when we approach this passage, we’re missing the forest for the trees. It gets broken down into each individual characteristic. And that’s important. But we forget that basically, this is a letter from Paul to Timothy. And what is Paul doing? Answering a question on how the church should be organized and how leaders should be selected. More on that later.

I hear one comment a lot, “Well, by that list, no one could ever be a church leader. None of us is perfect.” The logic often follows that since no one could keep any of those things, the list isn’t a hard and fast list of rules. They aren’t suggestions, but a lifestyle to be maintained over the course of one’s ministry.

I suppose that there are two extremes to this. The first extreme is that no one should pastor. No one is perfect. A lot of pastors attempt to keep a perfect image, but we are all sinners. The other extreme is that anyone can pastor, regardless of sin, ongoing or repentant.

One of my guilty little pleasures is to visit my blog stats every day and find out how people found my site. It’s interesting to look at some of the search terms. Recently I saw someone searched, “My pastor is texting my wife late at night.” Another, “Can a convicted felon be a pastor?” Those are some intriguing situations.

One of the statistics I quote in my book is that in a survey of conservative ministers. 30% of them said they had either mancomputbeen in an ongoing affair or a one-time sexual encounter with a parishioner. And it hadn’t been reported or caught. Add on top of that what seems to be a rampant amount of pornography use by ministers and there is a serious problem lurking in the hearts of ministers today.

If the list is a hard and fast pattern of rules that once broken, disqualify people for ministry, then a lot of people are disqualified. Right now. Anyone who has lost control, not been hospitable or become violent is out. They can be mixed in with the adulterous, those who can’t keep their children in control and those who are deemed in the category, “husband of one wife.” (And that depends on who you ask. Those can be divorced men before or after becoming Christians, the single, etc.)

If a pastor has a serious, unconfessed sin and is ministering and a church holds fast to the strict interpretation of 1 Timothy 3:1-7, then I would argue that a tremendous amount of our pulpits should be vacant next week. Heck, take a look at the man’s kids. If they aren’t submissive to him, then he should be taking a sabbatical or be dismissed immediately.

Panic yet?

I don’t think those verses are an ultra-strict mandate for ministers. If that’s the case, ministry leaders across the country are in serious trouble. For all of the ministers whose sin is discovered, I’d be daring enough to say that the hidden sin is twofold.

So why this list? Is it merely a suggestion? I don’t think that’s appropriate either. Surely we don’t want rampant sin from our church leaders. We should hold our leaders to a higher moral standard. We should expect them to be hospitable, to not commit adultery, to not be violent. Right?

treesI think we get into trouble when we take these verses and make them into something they were never meant to be. When we emphasize parts of them with great vigor but lessen the overall picture. The church is greatest served when we imagine ourselves sitting across from Paul as he addresses Timothy and Paul answers the question, “So, what kind of church leader should we be looking for?” That way, we can see the forest for the trees.

Can you imagine it for a moment? “Hey, Paul, what kind of leaders should we be getting?” “Well, Timothy, for sure, you need overseers who are husbands of one wife.” “Wait, Paul. Do you mean by that they can’t be previously divorced or single?” “Timothy, listen. What did I say? I’m trying to give you some simple rules for leadership. Look around you. You have some people in churches who are going to the pagan temple and engaging in prostitution. So, I think being the husband of one wife is pretty simple.”

In our time, maybe we don’t allow enough humanity from our leaders. We place them on a higher pedestal than they should be. We don’t see them as completely human. When they err, we are shocked. I’m not talking about major sins, I’m speaking of just daily interaction. Do we place them under too much pressure? The Barna Group suggests that pastors are expected to juggle 16 major tasks at once.

And with this list, I think there’s a reason ministers should be mentored and trained. There’s a reason all of us are living the continued process of sanctification. All of us are growing in holiness. Any pastor worth his salt will admit that he made mistakes early on that he wouldn’t make today due to pride or ignorance. But that’s part of the growing process.

Sin is not to be taken lightly. The men who aspire to it should know that much is expected. But an over-eager application of 1 Timothy 3 isn’t going to help anyone. It will increase judgment and self-righteousness among the believers. What we should be doing is living in grace and an expectation of holiness, mentoring and discipling one another. Knowing that all of our work will be going to serve Christ and glorify what He is doing in the world.

Comments (6)

Ray, Thanks so much for this post. I pastor a small Southern Baptist Church in N,C, and I struggle each and every day. My son has fallen from grace (21 and in college) and my wife has her own problems. Keep up the ministry.

In Christ

Hang in there brother. It’s tough, I know. I’m here if you need me. And if I can’t help I probably know people who can.

I think this is a topic worthy of further and deeper discussion. How can we get this out there for more input and dialog?
I think we miss the key words sometime… apires and not a recent convert. Far too often men (and women) who feel “called” to the ministry are thrust into the work without having thier call confirmed, thier behavior patterns examined and thier expectations prepared. I wonder if the statistics would drop considerably if we followed the overarching biblical pattern that Paul seems to lay out here. We could help many prospective pastors do well if there “humaness” was better understood up front.

I agree completely, Roy. I have a friend who has a ministry built upon training young ministers in the word. He’s doing separate from the seminary model, but is feeding them much biblical training. However, he is putting just as much mentoring into them as book learning. I think that’s what the seminary model leaves out.

With a recent convert, there tends to be a rush either by the man or the system to push them out into the ministry without preparation. There’s not even a “hey, buddy, let me tell you what you’re getting into.” Often, the young, called minister has a lot of hubris and brashness, and that will carry him a long way, but it won’t make up for the things mentoring can provide. And, book learning and a three year seminary MDiv is no substitute for mentoring either.

So yes, it needs to be out there, but many of the current models within the denominations – both within the churches and the seminaries aren’t willing to listen or provide for a different way. It’s business as usual. So at the end, what do we have? More statistical failure that could have been prevented.

Your friends program sounds great. I think many profs at the seminaries agree that the current model is not a good one for today’s pastors. But they are caught in the machine…
This is a conversation that I hope will take on larger and more visible space at the table among todays leaders in the church. We are practicing insanity…doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
I pray (I actually do!) that our voices will be heard…and soon.

[…] Listen, I’ve blogged about that before. I’m going to tell you that when I’ve preached since my fall from the pastorate, I’ve preached about grace, the love of Christ, my adultery, sin, and mercy. Every time I do, I have an altar call full of people, deacons, elders, and people who respond like I’ve never seen. […]

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