4 Things That Can Cause Ministry Failure

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4 Things That Can Cause Ministry Failure

When a pas­tor falls morally, it is a dev­as­tat­ing event. It is an affront to God, it harms many rela­tion­ships, it vio­lates the mar­riage vow, and leaves many dis­il­lu­sioned peo­ple in its wake. I know, because almost five years ago, I com­mit­ted adul­tery while pastoring.

4 things that can cause ministry failureWhen it hap­pens, peo­ple want to know, “Why did he do it? What was he think­ing?I want to list 4 fac­tors that can cause min­istry failure.

Before I do, I want to make a cou­ple of impor­tant remarks. First, the ques­tion, “Why did he com­mit adul­tery?” is a com­plex ques­tion that requires a com­plex answer. There’s not going to be an answer that gives any­one com­plete sat­is­fac­tion. When I wrote a book where I inter­viewed other fallen pas­tors, I was able to iden­tify fac­tors that led to moral fail­ure. But even know­ing these things doesn’t bring com­plete comfort.

It’s also impor­tant to know that these points aren’t an excuse or jus­ti­fi­ca­tion for adul­tery. The ulti­mate answer for “why do we fall short?” is “because we are sin­ful peo­ple who dis­obey God.” At some point, when a pas­tor begins to take his eyes off of God and makes a con­scious choice to fall into temp­ta­tion, the sin is his to own. Sin is behind each of these prob­lems listed below. These are fac­tors that lead up to that point. For more dis­cus­sions of these points, please search my blog or check out my book.

1. Iso­la­tion - Many pas­tors do not have a strong sup­port sys­tem. A lot of pas­tors don’t even have a close friend. The Fuller Insti­tute reported in a study that 70% of pas­tors said they did not have some­one they con­sid­ered a close friend. In the min­istry, hav­ing close friends you can share things with and be account­able to is extremely impor­tant. Form­ing a net­work of fel­low pas­tors, men­tors, and coun­selors who can help you through tough times is para­mount to min­istry survival.

77% of pas­tors said they did not have a good mar­riage. 71% stated they were burned out and they bat­tle depres­sion beyond fatigue on a weekly and even a daily basis.

2. Poor Mar­riage Rela­tion­ship — I know a lot of pas­tors who have a won­der­ful rela­tion­ship with their spouse and fam­ily. I’m also involved in this min­istry now to help pas­tors who are in trou­ble, fallen pas­tors, their wives, women who have had affairs with pas­tors, and church lead­ers and mem­bers. I’ve learned that there are many trou­bled min­istry mar­riages out there. A Fran­cis Scha­ef­fer Insti­tute of Church Lead­er­ship study reported that 77% of pas­tors said they did not have a good mar­riage. The same report said that 30% of them reported they had either been in an ongo­ing affair or a one-​time sex­ual encounter with a parish­ioner. A poor mar­riage is one of the strongest indi­ca­tors that min­istry fail­ure is immi­nent.
3. Overly High Expec­ta­tionsI recently wrote a blog about high expec­ta­tions and how they can lead to min­istry fail­ure Pas­tors should have high expec­ta­tions. They have nor­mal expec­ta­tions for car­ry­ing out their job duties. They should be expected to have high moral char­ac­ter. But there are times when churches can expect too much. The Scha­ef­fer report I quoted said that 71% stated they were burned out and they bat­tle depres­sion beyond fatigue on a weekly and even a daily basis. Extreme expec­ta­tions can come from within or with­out, but if fail­ure is to be pre­vented, com­mu­ni­ca­tion must take place between the pas­tor and the leadership.

4. Judgmentalism/​Pride — A lot of pas­tors who fall have a big prob­lem with either judg­men­tal­ism and/​or pride. The prob­lem of judg­men­tal­ism is not that the pas­tor under­stands what sin is and rec­og­nizes it. It is when he angrily demands con­trol over every sit­u­a­tion in a heavy-​handed man­ner and with­out grace. Pride­ful pas­tors are those who demand their way and will rarely lis­ten to coun­sel. The pul­pit and posi­tion of pas­tor build them up and make them feel impor­tant instead of humble.

This min­istry exists to help any­one who has expe­ri­enced min­istry and moral fail­ure, or any­one on the brink of it. No mat­ter who you are and how you’ve been affected, we will lis­ten. You may feel bro­ken and alone, but you’re not.

*All sta­tis­tics can be found in my book.

Other help­ful articles:

5 Rea­sons Min­is­ters Are (More) Vul­ner­a­ble to Sex­ual Temp­ta­tion,” by Jeff Fisher

Seven Warn­ing Signs of Affairs for Pas­tors and Other Church Staff,” by Thom S. Rainer

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Ray Car­roll is the author of “Fallen Pas­tor: Find­ing Restora­tion in a Bro­ken World,” which answers many of the ques­tions I get asked on a weekly basis.

If you are a fallen pas­tor who needs to talk or you are some­one who has been affected by a fallen pas­tor and would like to con­tact me pri­vately, please click here. You are the main rea­son this min­istry exists. I’m here to help you.

If you are a church, men’s group, asso­ci­a­tion, con­fer­ence, or news out­let and would like more infor­ma­tion about this min­istry, please click here.

When a pastor falls morally, it is a devastating event. It is an affront to God, it harms many relationships, it violates the marriage vow, and leaves many disillusioned people in its wake. I know, because almost five years ago, I committed adultery while pastoring.

4 things that can cause ministry failureWhen it happens, people want to know, “Why did he do it? What was he thinking?I want to list 4 factors that can cause ministry failure.

Before I do, I want to make a couple of important remarks. First, the question, “Why did he commit adultery?” is a complex question that requires a complex answer. There’s not going to be an answer that gives anyone complete satisfaction. When I wrote a book where I interviewed other fallen pastors, I was able to identify factors that led to moral failure. But even knowing these things doesn’t bring complete comfort.

It’s also important to know that these points aren’t an excuse or justification for adultery. The ultimate answer for “why do we fall short?” is “because we are sinful people who disobey God.” At some point, when a pastor begins to take his eyes off of God and makes a conscious choice to fall into temptation, the sin is his to own. Sin is behind each of these problems listed below. These are factors that lead up to that point. For more discussions of these points, please search my blog or check out my book.

1. Isolation Many pastors do not have a strong support system. A lot of pastors don’t even have a close friend. The Fuller Institute reported in a study that 70% of pastors said they did not have someone they considered a close friend. In the ministry, having close friends you can share things with and be accountable to is extremely important. Forming a network of fellow pastors, mentors, and counselors who can help you through tough times is paramount to ministry survival.

77% of pastors said they did not have a good marriage. 71% stated they were burned out and they battle depression beyond fatigue on a weekly and even a daily basis.

2. Poor Marriage Relationship – I know a lot of pastors who have a wonderful relationship with their spouse and family. I’m also involved in this ministry now to help pastors who are in trouble, fallen pastors, their wives, women who have had affairs with pastors, and church leaders and members. I’ve learned that there are many troubled ministry marriages out there. A Francis Schaeffer Institute of Church Leadership study reported that 77% of pastors said they did not have a good marriage. The same report said that 30% of them reported they had either been in an ongoing affair or a one-time sexual encounter with a parishioner. A poor marriage is one of the strongest indicators that ministry failure is imminent.
3. Overly High ExpectationsI recently wrote a blog about high expectations and how they can lead to ministry failure Pastors should have high expectations. They have normal expectations for carrying out their job duties. They should be expected to have high moral character. But there are times when churches can expect too much. The Schaeffer report I quoted said that 71% stated they were burned out and they battle depression beyond fatigue on a weekly and even a daily basis. Extreme expectations can come from within or without, but if failure is to be prevented, communication must take place between the pastor and the leadership.

4. Judgmentalism/Pride – A lot of pastors who fall have a big problem with either judgmentalism and/or pride. The problem of judgmentalism is not that the pastor understands what sin is and recognizes it. It is when he angrily demands control over every situation in a heavy-handed manner and without grace. Prideful pastors are those who demand their way and will rarely listen to counsel. The pulpit and position of pastor build them up and make them feel important instead of humble.

This ministry exists to help anyone who has experienced ministry and moral failure, or anyone on the brink of it. No matter who you are and how you’ve been affected, we will listen. You may feel broken and alone, but you’re not.

*All statistics can be found in my book.

Other helpful articles:

5 Reasons Ministers Are (More) Vulnerable to Sexual Temptation,” by Jeff Fisher

Seven Warning Signs of Affairs for Pastors and Other Church Staff,” by Thom S. Rainer

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Ray Carroll is the author of “Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration in a Broken World,” which answers many of the questions I get asked on a weekly basis.

If you are a fallen pastor who needs to talk or you are someone who has been affected by a fallen pastor and would like to contact me privately, please click here. You are the main reason this ministry exists. I’m here to help you.

If you are a church, men’s group, association, conference, or news outlet and would like more information about this ministry, please click here.

 

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