Category Archives: affair

What Are We To Think of “The Other Woman”?

I recently wrote a blog giving advice to “the other woman.” You know, the woman caught in adultery. The woman the pastor has an affair with. The mistress. But what should we think of “the other woman”? I’ve never liked any of those terms. I guess it’s because I was a pastor and married the woman I had an affair… Read more »

Affairrecovery.com – Hope For Broken Marriages

Has your spouse cheated on you? Are you cheating on your spouse and want to come clean about it? Maybe you’ve been caught and all you want is for your relationship with your spouse to be restored. Lots of people don’t know where to start. I ran across a group of people recently who have dedicated their lives to helping… Read more »

Is Facebook Ruining Marriages?

A couple of headlines caught my eye this week regarding Facebook and its role in the destruction of marriage. The first was an article by Samantha Yule in The Mirror: “Facebook now crops up in a third of divorce cases over cheating and old flames.” Yule reports that many married people get in touch with old flames through Facebook. Worse,… Read more »

When a Pastor Falls, pt. 1: What Can Leaders Do?

I wanted to be able to write something to help churches and leaders have a guide for when their pastor falls. The problem is that no two situations are quite alike. And yet, all situations are very similar. For the next few posts, I want to give some help that comes from my experience and from the things I’ve read… Read more »

3 Ways To Dig Your Way Out Of Sin

You might have found your way to this site because you’re in the middle of a sin. Possibly adultery, mishandling money, pornography, maybe you’re about to commit adultery or have been getting too close to someone who isn’t your spouse. Also possible, you’re a pastor or minister. I’m about to propose three ways you can start digging your way out… Read more »

Why Didn’t God Stop Me From Committing Adultery?

It’s a question that comes to me often. It comes across my blog search engine more than I’d think. “Why didn’t God stop me from committing adultery?” There are two different points of view on this question. Most people are on the outside of this question. Most people reading this blog are probably saying, “What kind of ridiculous question is… Read more »

Why Do Pastors Commit Adultery?

My site is discovered because of all types of searches. But one of the most common search phrases is “Why do pastors commit adultery?” I did. Four years ago. I wasn’t looking to commit adultery – and I don’t believe most pastors who cross the line are looking for it. I wrote a book about my fall and the stories… Read more »

Fallen Pastors: 3 Very Common Questions

I love helping (and am always more than happy to help) anyone who contacts me through this ministry, but I am closest to the messed up, confused world of the freshly fallen pastor. And it is a horrible place to be. I tell fallen pastors, “No one really understands fallen ministers like a fellow fallen minister.” One of the most… Read more »

What Should We Think Of “The Other Woman”?

I recently wrote a blog giving advice to “the other woman.” You know, the woman caught in adultery. The woman the pastor has an affair with. The mistress. But what should we think of “the other woman”? I’ve never liked any of those terms. I guess it’s because I was a pastor and married the woman I had an affair… Read more »

Advice For “The Other Woman”

There’s a moral crisis among pastors in our country. I can cite statistics all day – and I have on this blog – about pastors falling into adultery to prove the point. But I think the thing that gets to me the most are the women who contact us through this website who most would call the pastor’s mistress, “the… Read more »