Category Archives: anger

When the Pastor Falls 4: What’s Next For the Church?

If you’ve been reading this series in order, then you’ve arrived at this point where the church leadership has done the best they can after they’ve learned that the pastor committed adultery. (Part 1, part 2, part 3) Hopefully, the pastor and his family are receiving prayerful support from the church and are being attended to by a ministry/counseling team… Read more »

When The Pastor Gets Caught

The day comes out of nowhere and the news hits everyone hard. Everyone learns that the pastor has committed adultery. Or, for that matter, they’ve discovered he’s embezzled or been lying about something horrible. Everyone has a different reaction. I was a pastor and I fell when I committed adultery. I had kept it secret for a few months, but… Read more »

Fire and Ice

Was reminded of this little beauty the other day. Wanted to share it. It’s become a favorite of mine in recent years. Fire and Ice by Robert Frost Some say the world will end in fire, Some say in ice. From what I’ve tasted of desire I hold with those who favor fire. But if it had to perish twice,… Read more »

Lashing Out After A Pastor Falls: How Bad It Can Get

Lately, both Allison and I have been ministering to fallen ministers and their significant others. A recurring theme has arisen in many of these conversations: “How angry is the ex-wife/husband in the relationship allowed to get?” Obviously, I have experience in this arena. I hurt my ex horribly with my actions. Hurt is the emotion that arises first, then anger…. Read more »

The Joel Osteen Hoax: How Much Do We Hate This Guy?

You’ve probably heard it by now. But you may be wrong in what you heard. Joel Osteen, the pastor of Lakewood Church in Houston, Texas, the man with the smile that never seems to stop, doesn’t believe in God anymore. At least that was the “headline” running across the Internet days ago. There was an accompanying video, screenshots of stories… Read more »

When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough, Part 1

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve either directly or indirectly wronged someone and come to the point where you knew it was time to say, “I’m sorry“? It’s not easy to ask for forgiveness. It is the right thing to do and it takes humility and the right heart. I deal with fallen pastors a lot. I’m… Read more »

Rejoice! God Is Not Like Us!

I get some interesting emails from time to time. Most of them are from pastors who need help, others are from people who thank me for things I’ve written. Then, I’ll get some from people who lash out at me for different reasons. I won’t say that I don’t take it seriously, but I don’t take it personally. What I… Read more »

Doing God’s Job for Him: Getting Vengance on Those Who Sin

Over the past three years, I’ve seen a lot of anger. Some of it has been anger I’ve produced. Sometimes, I’ll be counseling a fallen pastor and see others angry at him for the moral failure he committed and lash out at him for months or years. I have images saved on my computer from Facebook from people who have… Read more »

5 Things To Do When You’re Emotionally Weak

I don’t feel like blogging right now. But it’s because I don’t feel like blogging that I am convinced that this topic needs to be covered while I feel like this. Do you ever feel like you’re on emotional “thin ice”? Any of us can be susceptible to anxiety, seasonal depression or just depression. I just have good ol’ regular… Read more »

The Confused Community: The Wounded Church, Part 3

(This is part three of a series of who is effected by the fall of a pastor. It’s been three years since my own fall from ministry and hopefully since writing Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration in a Broken World, talking to people who have hurt and been hurt, I have some hopeful advice.) When a pastor falls, a sort of… Read more »