Category Archives: brokenness

Fallen Pastors: 3 Very Common Questions

I love helping (and am always more than happy to help) anyone who contacts me through this ministry, but I am closest to the messed up, confused world of the freshly fallen pastor. And it is a horrible place to be. I tell fallen pastors, “No one really understands fallen ministers like a fellow fallen minister.” One of the most… Read more »

Jesus Took My Scarlet Letter and Stomped On It

I remember the day I got my Scarlet Letter. You don’t need to know the details. There’s enough about it in my blog history or my book. For the first week or so, I thought about the fact that I had committed adultery. By the time I had gotten to the act of it, my heart had already hardened to… Read more »

A Simple Prayer for the Fallen Pastor

I hear from fallen pastors on a weekly basis. This ministry is a joy because there’s not much out there like it. When I fell four years ago, I felt useless. Now God has transformed my brokenness and allowed me to be useful once again. When I talk to them on the phone, it’s almost always the same. I can… Read more »

We Are Here – We Are Not Invisible

Being a fallen person is a difficult thing. If you’re a pastor who committed adultery, if you were the other woman, if you’re the wife of a fallen pastor – you made a decision to sin and are living through the consequences of that. Hopefully, you’ve taken the steps toward restoration back to Christ. I don’t necessarily mean restoration back… Read more »

Pastors In Trouble 5: Unrepentant Questions

I love helping (and am always more than happy to help) anyone who contacts me through this ministry, but I am closest to the messed up, confused world of the freshly fallen pastor. And it is a horrible place to be. I tell fallen pastors, “No one really understands fallen ministers like a fellow fallen minister.” One of the most… Read more »

Where Can A Fallen Pastor Fit In?

When a pastor falls and ends up out of the ministry – whether permanently or temporarily – he finds himself lost. A lot of things are going on in his life – counseling, restoration, working with his wife, working through his sin, trying to make sense of it all, possible court proceedings, etc. One of the most significant things that… Read more »

Fallen Pastors, Suicide, And Christmas

Christmas is a great time of year for a lot of people. Off the top of my head, I can think of three groups of people who it really stinks for. One, those who have seasonal depression. Next, for those who have lost loved ones recently or around the holidays. Finally, for pastors who have recently fallen from the ministry…. Read more »

Hershael York, Pt. 2: Pornography, Ministry Failure & Prevention

This is part two of my interview with Dr. Hershael York concerning fallen pastors, grace, ministry failure, and all kinds of things. If you missed part one, please go there first. If not, here is part two of our conversation. If you are looking for even more Dr. York quotables, he helped me out when I wrote my book. Dr…. Read more »

Hershael York Interview, Pt. 1: True Repentance & Brokenness

Dr. Hershael York is known by many as the preaching professor at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. By some, he’s known as an outspoken critic for moral and Christian issues. To a few hundred, he’s the pastor of Buck Run Baptist Church in Frankfort, Kentucky, in the midst of paying off their debt and moving to a new facility. By… Read more »

Pastors & Killer Expectations, 2: Can They Be Juggled?

You’re a pastor. It’s finally your ‘day off.’ (Some of you are laughing already). Another week of preaching, sermon prep, visitation, phone calls, crisis management, complaints wrapped in sugar coating, leadership meetings, and time of prayer behind you. A day to yourself. Maybe you’ll start by spending time with your family (after you make a few phone calls to church… Read more »