Category Archives: compassion

Pastors In Trouble 6: Pastors & Suicide

I started this series to try and focus on some specific topics and disturbing trends among pastors today. This blog exists because pastors have been committing adultery and have been in crisis for a while. But I’ve noticed a trend that is even more disturbing. I don’t have any numbers to back it up, it’s just one I’ve noticed in… Read more »

For All The Sinning Ministers Out There

The title of this post is a little misleading. All ministers are sinners. I’m writing this for every minister, but I’m not. Every church leader should read this, but I’ve got a serious message for a specific group of pastors. I get at least two emails a week from people whose lives have been changed because a pastor has committed… Read more »

Pastoral Adultery Doesn’t Happen Overnight

“Our pastor committed adultery! How did this happen?” If I’ve heard this once since I fell from ministry, I’ve heard it a thousand times. When a pastor falls, it is a shocking thing to the church and community. People’s emotions range from shock then to anger in a matter of days. “How could he?” Let’s deal with the reality first…. Read more »

Why Are We So Darn Judgmental?

Really? What’s our deal? Why are we so darn judgmental? Jesus knew we were judgmental people. He even had to make sure it became part of the permanent record: “Judge not, that you not be judged.” (Matthew 7:1, ESV) Now, before you bring up the difference between discernment and judgment, let me give you my hillbilly definition of judgment vs…. Read more »

A Monument For Satan? We Already Have One

So, apparently, this is happening : “In their zeal to tout their faith in the public square, conservatives in Oklahoma may have unwittingly opened the door to a wide range of religious groups, including Satanists who are seeking to put their own statue next to a Ten Commandments monument outside the Statehouse. “The Republican-controlled Legislature in this state known as… Read more »

Are We Really Losing 1,500 Pastors A Month?

One of the statistics that gets thrown around about fallen pastors reads something like this – “1,500 pastors leave the ministry a month due to ministry failure, burnout, or conflict.” Right after I fell from ministry, I remember the first time I saw that. There was no reference attached to it. It was simply quoted by a pastor of a… Read more »

“Our Pastor Committed Adultery 20 Years Ago”

Over the past five months, I’ve gotten at least four emails that were almost identical, asking the same question. They all came from church leaders and asked this question: “What do we do when we just found out our current pastor committed adultery over 20 years ago? The deacons at that time knew of it, told him not to worry… Read more »

Hershael York, Pt. 2: Pornography, Ministry Failure & Prevention

This is part two of my interview with Dr. Hershael York concerning fallen pastors, grace, ministry failure, and all kinds of things. If you missed part one, please go there first. If not, here is part two of our conversation. If you are looking for even more Dr. York quotables, he helped me out when I wrote my book. Dr…. Read more »

What Can I Say To The Grieving?

Losing someone close to us is always a difficult thing. It’s especially tragic when death comes suddenly and without warning. All of us know people who have had to deal with personal loss and each of us has had to grieve as well. Sudden loss is no stranger to me. I lost both parents in separate accidents and my college… Read more »

Peanut Butter, Bacon, and Loving Those Who Hate You

It is not easy loving people or even praying for those who persecute you or hate you. But that’s exactly what Jesus said to do in Matthew 5: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so… Read more »