Category Archives: expectations

Are Pastors Too Hard On Themselves?

I was on the phone recently with a pastor friend of mine from out West. He had overheard someone in his church criticize something he had said and he had taken it personally. He said something like this – “People don’t understand how much criticism can hurt pastors, especially when we are working so hard all week-long doing ministry for… Read more »

3 Sources of High Expectations For Pastors

A 2001 Barna study shared the following information: “Church-goers expect their pastor to juggle an average of 16 major tasks. That’s a recipe for failure – nobody can handle the wide range of responsibilities that people expect pastors to master.” That was one of the most interesting statistics I found while doing research for my book, Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration… Read more »

Could Your Church Survive Without You?

It’s a question for all pastors. And think about it for a minute before you answer: “Could your church survive without you for two weeks?” Your immediate, heart-felt response is your honest answer. If it’s “yes,” you probably don’t have much to worry about. But you might want to keep reading because there might be something here for you. If… Read more »

Are Pastors Too Hard On Themselves?

I was on the phone recently with a pastor friend of mine from out West. He had overheard someone in his church criticize something he had said and he had taken it personally and it addresses a question that is very important: “Are pastors too hard on themselves?” He said something like this – “People don’t understand how much criticism… Read more »

Are Pastors Too Hard On Themselves?

I was on the phone recently with a pastor friend of mine from out West. He had overheard someone in his church criticize something he had said and he had taken it personally. He said something like this – “People don’t understand how much criticism can hurt pastors, especially when we are working so hard all week-long doing ministry for… Read more »

Pastors & Killer Expectations, 4: Ready, Set, Humilify!

My family went on vacation last summer to St. Louis. During the trip, our youngest, Leslie, made up a word. She didn’t mean to, it just came out. And it was pretty funny – she said something like, “Why is that guy being such a tweezernozzer?” A new word was born. Tweezernozzer can be a verb, noun or adjective. “That… Read more »

Pastors & Killer Expectations, 3: How To Cope

How can a pastor cope with killer expectations? He can’t. If you find yourself coping, you’re not doing it right.  Coping is getting by. It’s like using one oar to paddle a cruise liner through the Bermuda Triangle. It’s not going to happen if you just try and “cope.” You want to know how you need help? If half of… Read more »

Pastors & Killer Expectations, 2: Can They Be Juggled?

You’re a pastor. It’s finally your ‘day off.’ (Some of you are laughing already). Another week of preaching, sermon prep, visitation, phone calls, crisis management, complaints wrapped in sugar coating, leadership meetings, and time of prayer behind you. A day to yourself. Maybe you’ll start by spending time with your family (after you make a few phone calls to church… Read more »

Pastors & Killer Expectations, Pt. 1: Where Do They Come From?

A 2001 Barna study shared the following information: “Church-goers expect their pastor to juggle an average of 16 major tasks. That’s a recipe for failure – nobody can handle the wide range of responsibilities that people expect pastors to master.” That was one of the most interesting statistics I found while doing research for my book, Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration… Read more »

My Experiences With Christian Counselors

Let me start with a heavy disclaimer. I believe with all my heart that most pastors should be getting help from Christian counselors – certified, helping, loving Christian counselors who understand the perils, struggles and pain of ministry. Now, I’m going to tell you my personal experience with counselors. It has been hit or miss, but it has mostly been… Read more »