Category Archives: forgiveness

3 Ways to Respond to Anger

Tweet At some point, we are all going to tick someone off. Most of the people I deal with in this ministry have made someone angry as a consequence of their sin. I did. I learned fairly quickly that when people are angry with you because of your sin, it’s often best to just show them grace and let them… Read more »

Being Clear About the Sin of Adultery

Tweet I get new visitors to this site every day. Because of that, people will read one blog post and might take this whole ministry out of context depending on what article they read or what mood they happen to be in when they read it. I’ve gotten email messages from, “So it’s okay to commit adultery?” to “You realize… Read more »

When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough

Tweet When we mess up and need forgiveness, one of the most frustrating things can be when people withhold that forgiveness. I’ve tried to outline some reasons people do that, but today I want to get into one of the really nasty things that can happen after someone grants a sort of half-hearted forgiveness. You know what I’m talking about. You’ve… Read more »

Five Reasons People Don’t Forgive

Tweet I don’t know about you, but I mess up. A lot. And in my life, I’ve found myself asking for forgiveness more than once. But when I fell from ministry, it took me a while to get to a place where my heart was right enough to ask forgiveness in the right manner. I’d like to focus on why… Read more »

Is Repentance Possible For The Fallen Pastor?

Tweet When a pastor falls from the ministry, due to adultery, embezzlement, alcoholism, or whatever, the immediate desired response is that he repent on the spot. Repentance, as we know it, is a turning away from his sin and moving back toward God. Is repentance possible for the fallen pastor? If he has left his wife or committed adultery, he… Read more »

3 Things To Remember When Forgiving Someone

Tweet People want and need to be forgiven. There are those of us walking around with huge burdens that need to be reconciled with groups of people or individuals. We’ve tried to ask for forgiveness, asked for it, or are looking for a way to ask for it in a similar way in which we sinned against others. But for whatever… Read more »

Can You Believe That Sinner?

Tweet I’ve been writing for a long time. My senior year of high school, I got to help write  a play. I can see the following monologue being acted out by one person for a church drama. But I can also see it happening every week in churches as a reaction to those who sin, unfortunately. These are the whispers… Read more »

Guest Blog: What Will It Take To Forgive?

Tweet I’d like to welcome Mark and Lisa DeCourcey today for a guest blog. Mark writes today with the heart of a fallen pastor who understands forgiveness and the need for restoration and reconciliation. Please check out their information and their blog info below. A little over a year ago, I committed adultery. God has done an amazing work of… Read more »

A Blueprint for Pastoral Reconciliation, Pt. 2

Tweet A couple of weekends ago, I saw something transformative. It’s something I hope begins to happen in churches across the country whose pastor has previously fallen to adultery or any other sin. You can catch up on the details by reading my last blog – but understand that what I and the other people present at Capshaw Church in… Read more »

When a Pastor Falls, pt. 2: Confronting the Pastor

Tweet This series is about how church leadership can effectively handle the fall of their pastor when he has been accused of sexual immorality. It is a horrible situation for any church to find themselves in. It is seemingly a no-win situation for anyone. But it is a situation that more and more churches find themselves in. I am a… Read more »