Category Archives: forgiveness

3 Things To Remember When Forgiving Someone

People want and need to be forgiven. There are those of us walking around with huge burdens that need to be reconciled with groups of people or individuals. We’ve tried to ask for forgiveness, asked for it, or are looking for a way to ask for it in a similar way in which we sinned against others. But for whatever reason,… Read more »

Can You Believe That Sinner?

I’ve been writing for a long time. My senior year of high school, I got to help write  a play. I can see the following monologue being acted out by one person for a church drama. But I can also see it happening every week in churches as a reaction to those who sin, unfortunately. These are the whispers that… Read more »

Guest Blog: What Will It Take To Forgive?

I’d like to welcome Mark and Lisa DeCourcey today for a guest blog. Mark writes today with the heart of a fallen pastor who understands forgiveness and the need for restoration and reconciliation. Please check out their information and their blog info below. A little over a year ago, I committed adultery. God has done an amazing work of restoration… Read more »

A Blueprint for Pastoral Reconciliation, Pt. 2

A couple of weekends ago, I saw something transformative. It’s something I hope begins to happen in churches across the country whose pastor has previously fallen to adultery or any other sin. You can catch up on the details by reading my last blog – but understand that what I and the other people present at Capshaw Church in Huntsville,… Read more »

When a Pastor Falls, pt. 2: Confronting the Pastor

This series is about how church leadership can effectively handle the fall of their pastor when he has been accused of sexual immorality. It is a horrible situation for any church to find themselves in. It is seemingly a no-win situation for anyone. But it is a situation that more and more churches find themselves in. I am a fallen… Read more »

Why Fallen Pastors Are Like Snakes

This blog post title may be a bit misleading since this ministry is dedicated to helping fallen pastors and those hurt by a fall. But fallen pastors are a lot like snakes. Why? Because you either like them or you don’t. A friend of mine who ministers to the fallen wrote this on Facebook the other day: “Keep us in… Read more »

Restoring the Adulterous Plumber and Pastor

Fallen pastors go through a series of stages after their fall from ministry. It’s a topic that consumes a lot of space in my book, “Fallen Pastor.” Fallen pastors spend a lot of time being angry and justifying their actions. I know I did. Anyone caught in sin, as we all know, have the same reaction. Whether we get caught… Read more »

Does God Continue To Punish Us After He Forgives Us?

This is a heavy post. How do we perceive God’s punishment vs. the consequences of our sin? Let me start it with an example from the life of a fallen pastor. This is a real question I’ve been asked, and asked myself. “As a fallen pastor, after I’ve been forgiven of my adultery, will God continue to punish me for… Read more »

Can We Just Forgive Someone “In Our Heart?”

I want to write about a statement that really, really bothers me. “I’ve forgiven ‘so and so’ in my heart.” I have heard this sentiment over and over for many years. I understand what it means. Usually, it means, “I say I forgive them, but I never really want to tell them I forgive them.” Is this true, biblical forgiveness?… Read more »

Men Who Smell Like Pigs: Restoring Fallen Pastors

I’ve been ministering to fallen pastors for over four years now through my book and this blog. It’s been a unique joy and blessing. Recently, I’ve been taking the stance that all churches, members and leaders need to be more involved with taking care of a pastor when he falls from the ministry due to sexual immorality. Even though these… Read more »