Category Archives: gossip

When a Pastor Falls, pt. 1: What Can Leaders Do?

I wanted to be able to write something to help churches and leaders have a guide for when their pastor falls. The problem is that no two situations are quite alike. And yet, all situations are very similar. For the next few posts, I want to give some help that comes from my experience and from the things I’ve read… Read more »

Bob Coy Family Divided

Bob Coy Family Divided – It’s a search term that keeps poking it’s head up on my blog search results. Every day, people find my blog searching for those words. I wrote a blog post about Bob Coy. The best and most balanced blog post I’ve seen is from The Last Hiker’s blog that has over 400 comments. In those… Read more »

When the Pastor Falls 4: What’s Next For the Church?

If you’ve been reading this series in order, then you’ve arrived at this point where the church leadership has done the best they can after they’ve learned that the pastor committed adultery. (Part 1, part 2, part 3) Hopefully, the pastor and his family are receiving prayerful support from the church and are being attended to by a ministry/counseling team… Read more »

When a Pastor Falls, 1: Help For Leaders

I wanted to be able to write something to help churches and leaders have a guide for when their pastor falls. The problem is that no two situations are quite alike. And yet, all situations are very similar. For the next few posts, I want to give some help that comes from my experience and from the things I’ve read… Read more »

Pastoral Adultery Doesn’t Happen Overnight

“Our pastor committed adultery! How did this happen?” If I’ve heard this once since I fell from ministry, I’ve heard it a thousand times. When a pastor falls, it is a shocking thing to the church and community. People’s emotions range from shock then to anger in a matter of days. “How could he?” Let’s deal with the reality first…. Read more »

The Confused Community: The Wounded Church, 3

How does a pastor’s fall effect a community? How should local pastors react? What is the church supposed to do when the pastor commits adultery? Whether you’re a regular attender, member, or visitor, you might be looking for help or a way to cope. When a pastor falls, a sort of shock wave goes out through the community at large…. Read more »

The Joel Osteen Hoax: How Much Do We Hate This Guy?

You’ve probably heard it by now. But you may be wrong in what you heard. Joel Osteen, the pastor of Lakewood Church in Houston, Texas, the man with the smile that never seems to stop, doesn’t believe in God anymore. At least that was the “headline” running across the Internet days ago. There was an accompanying video, screenshots of stories… Read more »

The Confused Community: The Wounded Church, Part 3

(This is part three of a series of who is effected by the fall of a pastor. It’s been three years since my own fall from ministry and hopefully since writing Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration in a Broken World, talking to people who have hurt and been hurt, I have some hopeful advice.) When a pastor falls, a sort of… Read more »

Taking A Pastor’s Fall Personally

I’m the kind of guy who takes things very personally. Some people are just wired that way. I like to act like things just roll off my back and I really don’t care but I’m pretty sensitive. I’ve gotten better since I started blogging about not taking things personally, which is a good thing for all of us to learn…. Read more »

The TMZ Attitude of the Church

You’re a Christian. You just got caught embezzling money. You got caught cheating on your spouse. You got caught lying to a large group of people about your true nature. Everyone just found out that you’re an alcoholic. Worst part? You’re a member of a large church. Everyone knows you and respects you. Past tense: Respected you. Now, your sin… Read more »