Category Archives: marriage

Pastors and Divorce: The Reality

This isn’t an easy post. Some fallen pastors who have committed adultery end up with the woman they commit adultery with. I was one. How should we approach the issue of fallen pastors and divorce? Let me share with you a couple of things before I start. The statistic is non-negotiable – 2% of marriages that are built on adultery… Read more »

Fallen Pastors and Divorce

This isn’t an easy post. Some fallen pastors who have committed adultery end up with the woman they commit adultery with. I was one. How should we approach the issue of fallen pastors and divorce? Let me share with you a couple of things before I start. The statistic is non-negotiable – 2% of marriages that are built on adultery… Read more »

Four Reasons Ministry Marriages Fail

When I tell regular church people that ministry marriages are often stressful and difficult, they find it hard to believe. Their disbelief extends even further when I tell the people in the pews that the most stressful issues between pastors and their wives is the ministry itself, they think I’m crazy. When I tell the same thing to most active… Read more »

Pastors and Divorce

Many pastors who have committed adultery end up with the woman they commit adultery with. I was one. Let me share with you a couple of things before I start. The statistic is non-negotiable: 2% of marriages that are the result of adultery succeed. You get that? That means if you marry someone who you commit adultery with, you are… Read more »

Pastor Ron Carpenter: Can Ministry Failure Be Prevented?

by Ray Carroll (please see below for contact info) Pastor Ron Carpenter of Redemption World Outreach Center reported to his church on Sunday that his wife had been having multiple affairs for the past ten years. There is much to the story and you can read it in many different places. It is a very large ministry and the pastor,… Read more »

Christians and “Sexting”

Seriously. This blog is biblically based. But it also has some warnings for everyone. I’m going to start with my own story. For those of you who don’t know, I fell in the ministry. I was a pastor of a church and I committed adultery. Afterwards, I wrote a book about it and interviewed pastors, experts, counselors, looking for common… Read more »

Pastors & Killer Expectations, 4: Ready, Set, Humilify!

My family went on vacation last summer to St. Louis. During the trip, our youngest, Leslie, made up a word. She didn’t mean to, it just came out. And it was pretty funny – she said something like, “Why is that guy being such a tweezernozzer?” A new word was born. Tweezernozzer can be a verb, noun or adjective. “That… Read more »

My Experiences With Christian Counselors

Let me start with a heavy disclaimer. I believe with all my heart that most pastors should be getting help from Christian counselors – certified, helping, loving Christian counselors who understand the perils, struggles and pain of ministry. Now, I’m going to tell you my personal experience with counselors. It has been hit or miss, but it has mostly been… Read more »

The Danger of this Website

I love my ministry to fallen pastors. Not a week goes by that I don’t get an email from a man who has fallen and needs help. Whether it’s a man who has fallen from ministry, a church whose pastor who has fallen or a wife whose husband has fallen. I put everything I have into helping them. But I… Read more »

Lashing Out After A Pastor Falls: How Bad It Can Get

Lately, both Allison and I have been ministering to fallen ministers and their significant others. A recurring theme has arisen in many of these conversations: “How angry is the ex-wife/husband in the relationship allowed to get?” Obviously, I have experience in this arena. I hurt my ex horribly with my actions. Hurt is the emotion that arises first, then anger…. Read more »