Category Archives: ministry

4 Reasons Ministry Marriages Fail

When I tell regular church people that ministry marriages are often stressful and difficult, they find it hard to believe. Their disbelief extends even further when I tell the people in the pews that the most stressful issues between pastors and their wives is the ministry itself, they think I’m crazy. When I tell the same thing to most active… Read more »

Six Years Of Ministry & A Strange Dream

Yesterday marked six years since my fall in ministry. I wanted to take a moment to reflect on those years and share what I’ve learned and also a really strange dream I had last night. First, I’ve been able to help hundreds of people in the past six years. Whether through my book, this website or through conversations, God saw… Read more »

How to Fix the Church: TJ from, Part 3

In part 3 of our interview, we pick up on our conversation with TJ from – make sure you read parts 1 and part 2 (about racism in the church) first. This is the last section of our interview and it hits the heart of his ministry and my ministry. During our conversation he said to me, “How did… Read more »

Pastor Accountability: TJ from, Pt. 1

It was 2010, and Tyronne Jacques (TJ) had been working in public relations and had been out of the ministry for five years. He was a guest on a Sirius radio show discussing a book he had written, “How to Fight Google and Win.” The host brought up the topic of the reputation of the church. On the show, the… Read more »

Help For Fallen Pastors – Podcast

My friend, Jeff Fisher, from and had me on his podcast this week. We talked about my ministry here at Fallen Pastor. We talked about my fall, the struggles of the pastor, how a fall happens, how churches react to a fall, how far pastors fall, and other things. Here is the link to part 1 and here… Read more »

Hey Wait, I’m The Samaritan!

I remember the touching story of the “Good” Samaritan growing up in Sunday School. Jesus told it in response to a question asked him – “Who is my neighbor?” Dude gets beat up while traveling home. He’s left for dead by the side of the road. A priest and a Levite both pass him by and ignore the heck out of him…. Read more »

Help With The Crisis of Fallen Pastors

It is my strong belief that most churches and leaders are not ready to handle the failure of a church leader. But even before that happens, I believe that it can and should be prevented. This video is an invitation to church leaders, associational missionaries, church members, pastors and anyone who wants to prevent ministry failure in their churches. It… Read more »

Pastors and Divorce: The Reality

This isn’t an easy post. Some fallen pastors who have committed adultery end up with the woman they commit adultery with. I was one. How should we approach the issue of fallen pastors and divorce? Let me share with you a couple of things before I start. The statistic is non-negotiable – 2% of marriages that are built on adultery… Read more »

Pastors and the Batman Problem

As a Batman fan, something struck me the other day while I was watching the new hit TV show, Gotham. In my years of reading Batman and Detective Comics, why didn’t Batman/Bruce Wayne ever build a better prison to lock up the Joker? The Joker is responsible for a lot of death and destruction and he’s typically housed in Arkham… Read more »

The Yellow Sticky Note

Today I’m honored to guest blog from an old friend. I’m posting a bio below. But please read the post first. I think a lot of you will relate to the writing and the topic. It’s one of the best posts I’ve read in a long time. He asked me to write an article for his website.  If he only… Read more »