Category Archives: pastoring

How to Fix the Church: TJ from, Part 3

In part 3 of our interview, we pick up on our conversation with TJ from – make sure you read parts 1 and part 2 (about racism in the church) first. This is the last section of our interview and it hits the heart of his ministry and my ministry. During our conversation he said to me, “How did… Read more »

Are Pastors Too Hard On Themselves?

I was on the phone recently with a pastor friend of mine from out West. He had overheard someone in his church criticize something he had said and he had taken it personally. He said something like this – “People don’t understand how much criticism can hurt pastors, especially when we are working so hard all week-long doing ministry for… Read more »

I Want To Pastor Again

I do. Or, I think I do. I get a lot of emails from fallen pastors who ask, “Will I ever get to pastor again?” My typical response is this: “Nope. Not unless you have restored with your wife or you are in a Pentecostal or Church of God denomination.” Like one man said, “Sinners make the best saints.” Think… Read more »

Pastors and the Batman Problem

As a Batman fan, something struck me the other day while I was watching the new hit TV show, Gotham. In my years of reading Batman and Detective Comics, why didn’t Batman/Bruce Wayne ever build a better prison to lock up the Joker? The Joker is responsible for a lot of death and destruction and he’s typically housed in Arkham… Read more »

Is Your Church Equipped to Handle Ministry Failure?

It is my strong belief that most churches and leaders are not ready to handle the failure of a church leader. But even before that happens, I believe that it can and should be prevented. This video is an invitation to church leaders, associational missionaries, church members, pastors and anyone who wants to prevent ministry failure in their churches. It… Read more »

Too Many Fallen Pastors: A Call For Reformation

Since my own fall from ministry five years ago, I have been ministering to fallen pastors, their churches, their wives, the women they have been involved with, their families, and others. I’m always happy to see people restored back to Christ, yet I am still discouraged by the stories of infidelity in the ministry, pastoral suicide and burnout, and divorce… Read more »

When a Pastor Falls, pt. 1: What Can Leaders Do?

I wanted to be able to write something to help churches and leaders have a guide for when their pastor falls. The problem is that no two situations are quite alike. And yet, all situations are very similar. For the next few posts, I want to give some help that comes from my experience and from the things I’ve read… Read more »

Pray for Pastors With Depression

There are a lot of pastors who suffer from depression. I’m sure you’ve seen the statistics. Fallen pastors suffer from it as well. Right now, I’m going through a tough time of cyclical depression myself. I don’t share that for pity, but I know how hard it can be. I’ve had it for a long time and when I was… Read more »

A Haunting Story of Pastor Suicide

While writing my book, I was interviewing a fallen pastor. He shared this with me: “I heard about a pastor who committed adultery in August then killed himself in December. I wondered, ‘Did anyone reach out to him? Did anyone love him? Did anyone seek to restore him?’ It brought back so many memories of when I wanted to die.”… Read more »

5 Things I Would Change About The Way I Pastored

It’s been almost five years since I fell from the ministry. I don’t spend a lot of free time these days thinking about my days as  pastor. I have the occasional conversation with former church members in whom I can confide. When I do, it helps me see things from a different angle. Surely, the sin I committed, followed by… Read more »