Category Archives: pastoring

Confessions of a Fallen Pastor

Tweet What happens when a pastor commits adultery? Is his life over? Does he lose his calling? Does God forsake him? Or is he suddenly free to live the life he always wanted to live? Like anything else in the world, there are two extremes of thinking on the topic and I’ve found both extremes to be full of error…. Read more »

Fixing Our Own Problems is Elbow Licking

Tweet Stop what you’re doing and lick your elbow. Unless you’re driving, then pull to the side of the road, then lick your elbow. Oh,you’ve heard this one? Yeah, I heard it when I was six. I was really bored one day in first grade and my teacher didn’t like me much. She challenged me to lick my elbow. I… Read more »

Do We Expect Too Much Of Our Pastors?

Tweet A 2001 Barna study shared the following information: “Church-goers expect their pastor to juggle an average of 16 major tasks. That’s a recipe for failure – nobody can handle the wide range of responsibilities that people expect pastors to master.” That was one of the most interesting statistics I found while doing research for my book, Fallen Pastor: Finding… Read more »

How to Fix the Church: TJ from, Part 3

Tweet In part 3 of our interview, we pick up on our conversation with TJ from – make sure you read parts 1 and part 2 (about racism in the church) first. This is the last section of our interview and it hits the heart of his ministry and my ministry. During our conversation he said to me, “How… Read more »

Are Pastors Too Hard On Themselves?

Tweet I was on the phone recently with a pastor friend of mine from out West. He had overheard someone in his church criticize something he had said and he had taken it personally. He said something like this – “People don’t understand how much criticism can hurt pastors, especially when we are working so hard all week-long doing ministry… Read more »

I Want To Pastor Again

Tweet I do. Or, I think I do. I get a lot of emails from fallen pastors who ask, “Will I ever get to pastor again?” My typical response is this: “Nope. Not unless you have restored with your wife or you are in a Pentecostal or Church of God denomination.” Like one man said, “Sinners make the best saints.”… Read more »

Pastors and the Batman Problem

Tweet As a Batman fan, something struck me the other day while I was watching the new hit TV show, Gotham. In my years of reading Batman and Detective Comics, why didn’t Batman/Bruce Wayne ever build a better prison to lock up the Joker? The Joker is responsible for a lot of death and destruction and he’s typically housed in… Read more »

Is Your Church Equipped to Handle Ministry Failure?

Tweet It is my strong belief that most churches and leaders are not ready to handle the failure of a church leader. But even before that happens, I believe that it can and should be prevented. This video is an invitation to church leaders, associational missionaries, church members, pastors and anyone who wants to prevent ministry failure in their churches…. Read more »

Too Many Fallen Pastors: A Call For Reformation

Tweet Since my own fall from ministry five years ago, I have been ministering to fallen pastors, their churches, their wives, the women they have been involved with, their families, and others. I’m always happy to see people restored back to Christ, yet I am still discouraged by the stories of infidelity in the ministry, pastoral suicide and burnout, and… Read more »

When a Pastor Falls, pt. 1: What Can Leaders Do?

Tweet I wanted to be able to write something to help churches and leaders have a guide for when their pastor falls. The problem is that no two situations are quite alike. And yet, all situations are very similar. For the next few posts, I want to give some help that comes from my experience and from the things I’ve… Read more »