Help!

You may have stum­bled upon this page look­ing for help. That’s great, because that’s why I started blog­ging. I’m a for­mer fallen pas­tor who started blog­ging to clear my head. I started reach­ing out to try to find oth­ers to help me. Now, I hope I can help others.

Maybe you’re about to fall. You might be con­sid­er­ing leav­ing your spouse or the min­istry. Maybe you’ve already fallen and just want to talk to some­one. Maybe you’re the spouse or loved one of a fallen pas­tor and need some­one to talk to. Maybe you’re a con­fused church mem­ber left in the wake of a pas­tor who has com­mit­ted adultery.

I don’t have all the answers, but I can lis­ten. I’m also part of a min­istry team at pas​torhelper​.org who can help. Con­tact us there or email me directly.

You’ll also find a lot of answers and help in my book, Fallen Pas­tor: Find­ing Rec­on­cil­i­a­tion in a Bro­ken World. There are a lot of posts on this blog that might answer ques­tions you already have (see below).

What­ever you do, don’t delay in reach­ing out to someone.

Also, if you are a woman who has been effected by a fall or is/​was a woman involved with a pas­tor, check out my wife’s blog, Fallen Pastor’s Wife.

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Here are some of my blog links if you are look­ing for some­thing to read right now. Whether you’re a pas­tor look­ing for help or some­one try­ing to make sense of the sit­u­a­tion, these are some posts that might lead you in the right direction:

Adul­tery: Don’t Try This at Home

Fallen Pas­tors Can Be Restored, A Per­sonal Tale, Part 1: Hosted by Pro­voke­tive Magazine

Fallen Pas­tors Can Be Restored, A Per­sonal Tale, Part 2: Hosted by Pro­voke­tive Magazine

Is Repen­tance Pos­si­ble for the Fallen Pastor?

Pas­toral Adul­tery Doesn’t Hap­pen Overnight

My Pas­tor Sinned, What Do I Do?

What Can The SBC Do About All Her Adul­ter­ous Pastors?

God Still Loves the Fallen Pastor

When Our Unfor­give­ness Turns to Hate

A Pastor’s Story That Has Haunted Me

1,500 Amer­i­cans are Dis­ap­pear­ing a Month — Did You Notice?

Putting the Fallen Pas­tor in His Place (Arti­cle for Pro­voke­tive Magazine)

Pas­tors and Killer Expec­ta­tions, Part 1: Where Do They Come From? (Four Part Series)

Jesus Took My Scar­let Let­ter and Stomped On It

A Sinner’s Guide to Find­ing a Church

When I’m Sorry Isn’t Enough (Three Part Series)

“Sex­ting”: Are There Rules?

“Sex­ting”: When It’s Okay