Racism and the Church: TJ from PimpPreacher.com, Part 2

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing TJ from Pimppreacher.com. Make sure you read Part 1 before continuing. I came across his site when I saw a Facebook article about a pastor who refused to do a funeral for an elderly church member who hadn’t tithed in a while. On the night I emailed TJ, I had no intentions of… Read more »

Pastor Accountability: TJ from PimpPreacher.com, Pt. 1

It was 2010, and Tyronne Jacques (TJ) had been working in public relations and had been out of the ministry for five years. He was a guest on a Sirius radio show discussing a book he had written, “How to Fight Google and Win.” The host brought up the topic of the reputation of the church. On the show, the… Read more »

Why Did Tullian Tchividjian Fall?

In the past five years I’ve been doing this ministry and helping fallen pastors and those hurt by their fall, the most common question I hear is, “Why did they do it?” This past Sunday, Pastor Tullian Tchividjian, grandson of Billy Graham, announced to his church, Coral Ridge Presbyterian, that he had been engaged in an “inappropriate relationship.” News spread… Read more »

The 3 Most Common Responses to Pastoral Adultery

In the past few years, I have seen churches respond in almost identical ways to pastoral adultery. Regardless of ethnic or denomination background, people are just people. When a pastor sins and betrays a congregation, their response typically falls into one of three categories. (This is assuming the pastor doesn’t leave on his own or follow his sin elsewhere.) First,… Read more »

Help For Fallen Pastors – Podcast

My friend, Jeff Fisher, from PorntoPurity.com and PurityCoaching.com had me on his podcast this week. We talked about my ministry here at Fallen Pastor. We talked about my fall, the struggles of the pastor, how a fall happens, how churches react to a fall, how far pastors fall, and other things. Here is the link to part 1 and here… Read more »

Can Facebook Ruin Your Marriage?

A couple of headlines caught my eye recently regarding Facebook and its role in the destruction of marriage. The first was an article by Samantha Yule in The Mirror: “Facebook now crops up in a third of divorce cases over cheating and old flames.” Yule reports that many married people get in touch with old flames through Facebook. Worse, people tend… Read more »

Pastors and Divorce: The Reality

This isn’t an easy post. Some fallen pastors who have committed adultery end up with the woman they commit adultery with. I was one. How should we approach the issue of fallen pastors and divorce? Let me share with you a couple of things before I start. The statistic is non-negotiable – 2% of marriages that are built on adultery… Read more »

Leaving Our Mark On Eternity

I often wonder about the story of Elijah, the widow and her son in 1 Kings 17. God commanded Elijah to travel to the house of a widow and when he arrived, she had only enough food for one meal. She and her son were starving. In fact, she told Elijah, “As the Lord your God lives, I have nothing baked,… Read more »

Book Review: “Lessons in Belonging,” by Erin Lane

Lessons in Belonging from a Church-Going Commitment Phobe by Erin S. Lane IVP Books, 2015 I haven’t had the pleasure of doing a book review in a while (actually haven’t had the time to read or write much), so I was pleased to see this title come along. Part of my ministry is talking to active pastors who ask me… Read more »

Our Four Heroes In Life

I was listening to one of my new favorite podcasts recently, “I Was There Too,” and heard something really neat. The host, Matt Gourley was interviewing actor Stephen Tobolowsky who is famously known from Deadwood and Groundhog Day (Ned Ryerson). Tobolowsky was recalling a conversation he had with director Harold Ramis who told him that each of us has four… Read more »